Today’s Great Relationship Habit: Great relationships take work and thoughtfulness every day
People 
who are in successful relationships work on these partnerships regularly. They don’t just set their life on cruise control expecting things to be great all of the time. Ask yourself, “What can I do today to make my partner’s life better?” Little bits of effort every day will accumulate over time and make a big difference.
Think of small, specific ways to make your relationship better whether it’s picking up your loved one’s dry cleaning, telling your partner that you’re proud of him or her, or taking over a task he or she really doesn’t like to do.
You should make an effort every day to deposit at least one act of thoughtfulness into your relationship’s bank account. Your goal, however, should not be to make a huge withdrawal at the end of the week. Your only goal should be to keep giving the things your mate wants – either his or her expressed and unexpressed wants. If there are actions you can take to make your partner’s day more convenient and less stressful, then do them. But, again, don’t do them for what you could gain by providing them.
True and authentic thoughtfulness will come back to you in surprising ways. When actions are forced or contrived, they are always perceived as so and lose their significance and importance. Your job in the relationship is to invest, contribute and work at making your partner’s life better. Yes, this takes work and planning. It takes you lifting your head from the frantic pace of your life and becoming more aware of the needs of your loved one.
A reader of this website left a comment yesterday which is a great example of this point: “Its (love) not eating the last Popsicle because you know the other would like it.” We refrain from eating the last Popsicle not because we are looking for sainthood or even to get “lucky” later that night. We do these things because we love and cherish the person with whom we have chosen to share our lives with. We do these things because what we crave more than anything is to have someone to love and to have that love returned to us in truly meaningful and sincere ways. We do these things because we have the capacity to trust, share our heart and know by doing so, we are making the world a little better for someone who we love very much. I would suggest there is tremendous value and worth in doing that my friend.
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